Three Types of Relationships We All Need

We Should Always Have These 3 Types of People In Our Lives

I know I didn’t come up with this, but I heard it somewhere at some point in my life! But the idea was that every Christian should have 3 types of people in their life.

One is above them. This person would be like a spiritual mentor, someone who is discipline them.

One type of person is even with them. This would be other strong Christian friends who the support and encouragement and level of spirituality are about the same.

The last type of person is the one’s are in a sense below us. This means that either they have no relationship with God or that they are new and immature Christians.

1. The Mentor Type

The first and primary mentor we have in this life is the Lord Jesus Christ Himself. When Jesus called His 12 disciples, He called them to leave their former lives behind, He called them unto Himself.

“Later, as Jesus left the town, he saw a tax collector named Levi sitting at his tax collector’s booth. “Follow me and be my disciple,” Jesus said to him. 28 So Levi got up, left everything, and followed him.” Luke 5:27

Before we can ever think about having a person to be our mentor we need to have Christ Himself as our Lord and pastor and bishop of our souls. Before we can even think about looking for fish to catch or other people to be a mentor to and grow in the things of God, we must have first learned to sit at the feet of Jesus and have Him as head over our lives.

Jesus was speaking to crowds of people who might want to follow Him and He said

24 Then Jesus said to His disciples, If anyone desires to be My disciple, let him deny himself [disregard, lose sight of, and forget himself and his own interests] and take up his cross and follow Me [cleave steadfastly to Me, conform wholly to My example in living and, if need be, in dying, also].

25 For whoever is bent on saving his [temporal] life [his comfort and security here] shall lose it [eternal life]; and whoever loses his life [his comfort and security here] for My sake shall find it [life everlasting].

26 For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and forfeits his life [his blessed life in the kingdom of God]? Or what would a man give as an exchange for his [blessed] life [in the kingdom of God]? Matthew 16:24-26

Leave our old life of selfishness. Deny ourselves. Take up the cross. Follow Jesus! He is to be our first mentor. We are to learn of Him. We are to look to Him and His example and to mimic Him, to be as He was and live like He lived.

All of the disciples had a living mentor. They had Jesus.

Who is our mentor? Who is someone that we would consider as deeper in the faith or more mature in the things of God than we are?

It could be our pastor. I think it should be our pastor and I think he should be mentoring us and looking to invest into our lives on a regular basis so we can grow. More than just listening to him preach, I think we should be able to see him live out His faith.

But in today’s modern church world with mega churches seen as the most successful, this is usually impossible. For your pastor to even know you is impossible in some church settings. I don’t believe this is healthy or the way it should be.

But if the church you go to is to big for you to have your pastor as your mentor. Then who are some other godly men or woman that can disciple you?

There are tons of examples of this type of person in the Bible. Elijah was a mentor to Elisha, Jethro was a mentor to Moses. Moses then mentored Joshua. David mentored Solomon.

And as we sit and learn from these mentors and learn from their life experiences, we should also have around us, those around our age, with similarities as ours who are probably about the same level spiritually.

2. The Friend Type

“As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.” Proverbs 27:17

When I was a youth pastor, I stressed this relationship a whole lot. I’m sure you have heard the quote that goes something like, want to know how you will be in 5 years, show me your closest friends. It’s true. Who we are around and who we confide in and who we hang around will develop us for the good or bad.

When I first got saved, this was so important for my spiritual growth. I was on a completely different path once Christ came and took away my wicked heart. If I wanted to grow spiritually I could not hang around those who have no desire to follow God’s plan for their life.

So we need friends! Not just any old friends. We need Godly friends. Friends who are sincerely striving with all they are to do God’s will. We need friends who will spiritually sharpen us and challenge us, not who will dull us and keep our thoughts on wordly things.

I am so blessed for my good friend Jimmy. I cannot put into words how much his friendship has meant to me over the years. We both know we need each other in order be sharpened and keep our passion and love for God and His plans burning in our hearts.

This type of person is a God ordained person. God will give you the right friends if you ask Him. And once He gives them to you, it still takes work. You must be intentional at calling each other and meeting together to sharpen one another.

Who are some friends in your life that you either need to focus in on more and make more an of effort to build one another up? Who are some people in your life that you need to back away from because your relationship is based on honoring God and growing in Him?

3. The Disciple Type

This type of person is the one who is below in spiritual things. Either they don’t know the Lord at all and you are in their life purposefully in order to preach the gospel to them and encourage them to follow Jesus, or they are a believer, but are a baby Christian or very new to the faith.

“One day as Jesus was walking along the shore of the Sea of Galilee, he saw two brothers—Simon, also called Peter, and Andrew—throwing a net into the water, for they fished for a living. 19 Jesus called out to them, “Come, follow me, and I will show you how to fish for people!” 20 And they left their nets at once and followed him.” Matthew 4:18-20

The very first example we have of Jesus calling one of His disciples, we see Jesus saying to Peter and Andrew, Come, follow me, and I will show you how to fish for people!

We cannot just hang around buddies and receive from a mentor type all our days! We need an outlet. We need others to be caring for and reaching out to with the love of God. We need to see people as Jesus saw them and be moved with compassion for them as sheep with no shepherd!

We need to allow the love of Christ to compel us to reach out to people we know are far from God. Who knows if they could be the person God would call us to help raise up and to do great things for His kingdom!

Strangely enough for me, in this moment, God has blessed me with this opportunity in an 8 year old! My good friend from high school passed away recently leaving her behind. Her mom is on drugs and no where to be found. She lives with her grandmother. But I know God has put her in my life to tell about how amazing God is and how much love He has for her. I love getting opportunities to share about how Christ died on the cross for her sins and that through Him is forgiveness and reconciliation to God the Father!

Think about people in your life that God may be calling you to disciple. It is a great privilege to be used by God in this way. But like all three relationships, you must be intentional. You must make the first move, or the first 20!

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God has given me a powerful testimony of going from darkness and serving satan, to light and serving the Lord Jesus Christ. The short version is that I was a drug abusing, drug dealing party animal all of my teenage years. I was saved in prison and God has done miracle after miracle in order to receive glory from my life! I am truly blessed to be alive serving Jesus, when I easily could be dead or still in prison. I have been serving the Lord in ministry since 2005. I have had many different roles, doing various things. I have been[...]

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